Why Is She Doing This?? Long.."Interesting&qu...

For the past month I’ve been on a roller coaster ride with my ex girlfriend. I met her in November of 2008 and she was the best thing that ever happened to me. We fell in love with each other. I was more than your average boyfriend. I cooked, helped her financially if she needed, bought her dinner, opened doors, bought her flowers on occasion, and did all of the little things that mattered. We had our bumps in the road, but we got over it before we knew it we were giving each other a hug and a kiss. She ended meeting a new guy and she cheated on me and left me for him. I was devastated for months.

A few months ago I decided to take her out of my life completely and deleted her as a friend on facebook. About a month ago I received a message from her wondering why I deleted her. I didn’t bother to respond. She sent me another message and told me she still wanted to be friends and that she was sorry for what she did to me. Turns out the low life she left me for cheated and left her. She told me that she still cared about me and wanted to hang out or have lunch. So I gave into her.

Last week I received hockey tickets and I figured she would like to go. I sent her a text and asked her what her plans were for the night it was scheduled. No Response. The day of the game I called and sent her text messages asking if she wanted to go. She gave in and said she wanted to. We went to the game and had a good time. We went to a local bar for some drinks and had a really good time and laughed with each other.

We went back to her house that night, and that’s when I started to become emotional. Of course, because I was drunk. She told me why she left me for him. She left me because he lied about who he was. She told me we just weren’t right for each other. He left her behind with an apartment she can’t afford. She can’t even afford groceries. I felt really bad. I told her that I still loved her and kissed her. She started to cry and we both told each other we would be a part of each others lives even if we couldn’t be together. I left that night drenched in tears. The next day she sent me a text and made sure I made it home okay and I told her I was fine. I offered her lunch and she said she had plans. I told her I would talk to her later. I realized that I was falling in love all over again. I decided to stop by my local card store and bought her a valentines day card. I wrote a heart felt note on the card along with a $300 check to help her financially. She received it the day before Valentines Day and thanked me. She said it meant a lot and made sure that I was willing to do that. I told her not to worry about it and asked her what she was doing that night. She told me she had to go to work. The next day on Valentines Day I sent her a text and wished her a happy Valentines Day and told her that I hoped she was feeling better. She never responded. I figured she was sleeping because she worked late night. Someone from work that day gave me a big cheesecake that I didn’t really want. I thought about her and that she would like it. I sent her a text and asked if she was awake and didn’t get a response. I just went home that night without stopping by her place. She sent me at 1am and told me she was at work. Didn’t bother to say, "Happy Valentines Day" or "Thank You". The next day in the afternoon I sent her a text and told her I was going to drop by and give her a cheesecake the night before. I never got a response out of it. I didn’t bother to contact her yesterday. I was beginning to think she was taking advantage of me, and I was thinking about cancelling the check I gave her. Today I had a change in heart and sent her a text and asked what she was up to. She told me she was up at her bank cashing my check and trying to get her account straightened out. I told her that I hoped that my check would help and offered to go to lunch when she was finished. I still haven’t gotten a response.

Why is she doing this to me? Is she playing mind games, or taking the hard to get game to the next level? It’s been 10 months since our breakup and in those 10 months she asked for friendship many times, and I denied. I finally accept.. and now this?? Ladies.. I need your help

You need to be Spock in the situation and think logically man. This girl is conflicted about a lot of things. She doesn’t sound very trustworthy and to top it off is taking advantage of your feelings for her without even the reciprocation of a good con.

Behind all this she might be with someone else or with that guy again. Think about it. You deserve better than that.

What should I do with my wife?

Ok here some background.
The wife and I have been married for 17 years. I am a musician and also work a full time job. My wife also workd a full time job.
When we first got married like everyone else life was
GREAT !! We have sex all the time, there was passion in the relationship. My wife would go with me to all my gigs and support me.
However over the years she has stopped going with me to the gigs and the passion is gone!! The sex is like " wake me when your done " sex.
I am a very passionate person I like to hold and be held. I love to sit around or lay in the bed with the one I love and snuggle with each other. My wife does not want to be touched inless we are having sex and then if she is not in the mood she does not even want touched then.
QUESTION 1.
Are there women out there that would like to be proud and support there musician? Are there women out there that like to be touched, kissed and loved?

Question 2.
Should I consider this over?
Life is to short to live with someone who does not share the same passions as you.

I am 40 years old and have never cheated on her before.
I just feel like I am getting short changed on life.

In addition so there will not be people that say " well you need to consider hher needs " Well read this.
I take her out for " date night " as long as it is where she wants to go she will have a good time. I bring her flowers on occasion and supprise her with gifts.

I thisk I am still a good catch and should not put up with this.
What do you think?
Ok, Stop saying I need to talk to her.
I am not an IDIOT I have talked to her about it. Things will get a little better for a short while. Then things are right back as they have been.

I posted the same question earlier today. I’m also 40, married 13 years, and I am a hobby musician. If it were not for my 2 kids, I’d kick my wife out of the house. I cannot believe women can be this lame, not to mention weird.

I’ve tried to talk to my wife about it, made us go to counseling. Nothing works, she is determined to be a passive aggressive ignorant slouch.

Maybe you and I should just start a facebook page called "husbands who became monks out of default"

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Edit – All the people here who say that YOU need to do something else or YOU are the problem or YOU need to TALK to her… are ALL WRONG. The problem is HER not YOU. And talking isn’t going to solve anything. If it were that easy you would not be in this situation. She obviously wants to cause you pain.

Why Is She Doing This To Me?? Long Story…?

For the past month I’ve been on a roller coaster ride with my ex girlfriend. I met her in November of 2008 and she was the best thing that ever happened to me. We fell in love with each other. I was more than your average boyfriend. I cooked, helped her financially if she needed, bought her dinner, opened doors, bought her flowers on occasion, and did all of the little things that mattered. We had our bumps in the road, but we got over it before we knew it we were giving each other a hug and a kiss. She ended meeting a new guy and she cheated on me and left me for him. I was devastated for months.

A few months ago I decided to take her out of my life completely and deleted her as a friend on facebook. About a month ago I received a message from her wondering why I deleted her. I didn’t bother to respond. She sent me another message and told me she still wanted to be friends and that she was sorry for what she did to me. Turns out the low life she left me for cheated and left her. She told me that she still cared about me and wanted to hang out or have lunch. So I gave into her.

Last week I received hockey tickets and I figured she would like to go. I sent her a text and asked her what her plans were for the night it was scheduled. No Response. The day of the game I called and sent her text messages asking if she wanted to go. She gave in and said she wanted to. We went to the game and had a good time. We went to a local bar for some drinks and had a really good time and laughed with each other.

We went back to her house that night, and that’s when I started to become emotional. Of course, because I was drunk. She told me why she left me for him. She left me because he lied about who he was. She told me we just weren’t right for each other. He left her behind with an apartment she can’t afford. She can’t even afford groceries. I felt really bad. I told her that I still loved her and kissed her. She started to cry and we both told each other we would be a part of each others lives even if we couldn’t be together. I left that night drenched in tears. The next day she sent me a text and made sure I made it home okay and I told her I was fine. I offered her lunch and she said she had plans. I told her I would talk to her later. I realized that I was falling in love all over again. I decided to stop by my local card store and bought her a valentines day card. I wrote a heart felt note on the card along with a $300 check to help her financially. She received it the day before Valentines Day and thanked me. She said it meant a lot and made sure that I was willing to do that. I told her not to worry about it and asked her what she was doing that night. She told me she had to go to work. The next day on Valentines Day I sent her a text and wished her a happy Valentines Day and told her that I hoped she was feeling better. She never responded. I figured she was sleeping because she worked late night. Someone from work that day gave me a big cheesecake that I didn’t really want. I thought about her and that she would like it. I sent her a text and asked if she was awake and didn’t get a response. I just went home that night without stopping by her place. She sent me at 1am and told me she was at work. Didn’t bother to say, "Happy Valentines Day" or "Thank You". The next day in the afternoon I sent her a text and told her I was going to drop by and give her a cheesecake the night before. I never got a response out of it. I didn’t bother to contact her yesterday. I was beginning to think she was taking advantage of me, and I was thinking about cancelling the check I gave her. Today I had a change in heart and sent her a text and asked what she was up to. She told me she was up at her bank cashing my check and trying to get her account straightened out. I told her that I hoped that my check would help and offered to go to lunch when she was finished. I still haven’t gotten a response.

Why is she doing this to me? Is she playing mind games, or taking the hard to get game to the next level? It’s been 10 months since our breakup and in those 10 months she asked for friendship many times, and I denied. I finally accept.. and now this?? Ladies.. I need your help

Because you are stupid and easy to take advantage of. I am pretty hot. You want to write me a check too?

Asking God To Bring My Ex Back.."Interesting&...

In November of 2008, I met the greatest thing that ever happened to me. My ex girlfriend and I fell deeply in love with each other. Our relationship was great with a few bumps in the road. We are different people with different views on certain things, which sometimes made us disagree on things. I did bring that fact up in the beginning of our relationship, but she told me everything would be fine and we would work things out. After all, we loved each other. I was more than your average boyfriend. I cooked dinner, bought dinner, opened doors, assisted her financially if needed, bought her flowers on occasion, and did all of the little things that mattered. 5-6 months into our relationship she met a new guy. The low life started offering to buy her things and started playing games with our relationship. That’s when the fights flared up.

She ended up cheating on me and leaving me for him. I was devastated for months. For months she contacted me but I ignored her because I was so bitter. After several months I began to question if I still loved her. I started to realize that I did. That’s when I began to ask God for direction. I’ve been praying for months and my heart STILL points to her. I truly still believe that we are meant to be together. She contacted me and informed me she still wanted to be friends and I gave in to her.

We went out with each other one night and had a good time. We had quite a few drinks, and that caused me to become emotional. I told her how I still felt about her. She told me that the low life she left me for ended up cheating and leaving her with an apartment she couldn’t afford on her own. She felt terribly bad for what she did to me. I told her I would give her another shot, but she told me that we weren’t right for each other. Honestly, I think she’s in denial. We did have a great, loving relationship. Had our disagreements and feuds here and there, but nothing extreme until the low life came into the picture. We still speak on occasion, and she told me she still loves me, but we can’t be together for what she did to me, and over the fact that she doesn’t think were right. I understood, but left her place in tears that night. I sent her a card with a heart felt note and a $300 check to help her financially. She can’t afford anything. She looked incredibly depressed and unhealthy.

Now here’s were I come into my question. How can I ask God to help her realize that I truly do love her and want to be happy with her again. I asked him for direction for months and I believe that he is telling me not to give up. I really don’t understand, I was really good to her in the relationship. Deep down I believe I deserve a second shot. I’m willing to give her another one. Due to the situation she’s in, she really needs someone like me in her life. How can I ask God to make things click again between us?

God is inside you. No effort, no result.

My wife has bought her co-worker flowers for her b...

She has also sent emails regarding them two going to the movies together. All this without my knowledge. Should I be concerned?? Also her co-worker if female that she is attracted to(she told me once)
dont let the picture fool you. im female

I think you can easily do the math. This is not a good situation you or your wife are in. Let alone your wife is initiating the flirting with the other female. As her wife you should at some point receive flowers i would assume. I can see how that would make you upset. A woman she works with getting flowers before you ever get any flowers from our own wife! Its important that you and your wife communicate your feelings and concerns about your relationship. You both have to be clear on any changes, and what your willing to do with and for each other to make the relationship stronger. If your suspicious your probably more then right and dont let either one of them fool you.

Your wife should know better then to send flowers to a woman she told you she was attracted too! That’s stupidity. Let alone if you know your wife is attracted to the other woman, her giving flowers to her is HIGHLY inappropriate. Your wife should try to stay away or control herself from these situations. As well as you can let her know what you think and feel, she should respect you and see what will happen if she pursues this other female by giving her flowers and such. Its misleading because it can confuse the other female to think that there is trouble in your marriage and that your wife is looking for someone who can give her what your not.