In November of 2008, I met the greatest thing that ever happened to me. My ex girlfriend and I fell deeply in love with each other. Our relationship was great with a few bumps in the road. We are different people with different views on certain things, which sometimes made us disagree on things. I did bring that fact up in the beginning of our relationship, but she told me everything would be fine and we would work things out. After all, we loved each other. I was more than your average boyfriend. I cooked dinner, bought dinner, opened doors, assisted her financially if needed, bought her flowers on occasion, and did all of the little things that mattered. 5-6 months into our relationship she met a new guy. The low life started offering to buy her things and started playing games with our relationship. That’s when the fights flared up.
She ended up cheating on me and leaving me for him. I was devastated for months. For months she contacted me but I ignored her because I was so bitter. After several months I began to question if I still loved her. I started to realize that I did. That’s when I began to ask God for direction. I’ve been praying for months and my heart STILL points to her. I truly still believe that we are meant to be together. She contacted me and informed me she still wanted to be friends and I gave in to her.
We went out with each other one night and had a good time. We had quite a few drinks, and that caused me to become emotional. I told her how I still felt about her. She told me that the low life she left me for ended up cheating and leaving her with an apartment she couldn’t afford on her own. She felt terribly bad for what she did to me. I told her I would give her another shot, but she told me that we weren’t right for each other. Honestly, I think she’s in denial. We did have a great, loving relationship. Had our disagreements and feuds here and there, but nothing extreme until the low life came into the picture. We still speak on occasion, and she told me she still loves me, but we can’t be together for what she did to me, and over the fact that she doesn’t think were right. I understood, but left her place in tears that night. I sent her a card with a heart felt note and a $300 check to help her financially. She can’t afford anything. She looked incredibly depressed and unhealthy.
Now here’s were I come into my question. How can I ask God to help her realize that I truly do love her and want to be happy with her again. I asked him for direction for months and I believe that he is telling me not to give up. I really don’t understand, I was really good to her in the relationship. Deep down I believe I deserve a second shot. I’m willing to give her another one. Due to the situation she’s in, she really needs someone like me in her life. How can I ask God to make things click again between us?
God is inside you. No effort, no result.
Dude, There’s been damage done. It’s as simple as that. You can’t return to a place that doesn’t exist anymore. Perhaps in your heart all may be forgiven, however, she knows for herself something is amiss. You don’t cheat if everything is solid. Even to the point of seeing another possibility of living better with someone else, you don’t and let it go because the commitment to love is most often stronger than the love itself.
Perhaps God has already given you an answer to a prayer you have not made yet. There is a message here. If something is meant to be it is. Your not alone. I lost my wife to a quick illness. We were only married for 4 months. She was my soul mate. She was 35 yrs. But now I’m happily married again going on 5 years. I recommend to let her go like a hot potato. No contact. If you start to get lonely, hit a bar or a strip joint or something. Surround your self with hotties and realize what you been missing all this time.
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God is inside you. No effort, no result.
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if praying did anything: it would have happened by now :: you need to focus your energy on improving your quality of life :: it’s pointless to pursue someone who doesn’t want you back!
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::irreligious believer::