am i doing the right thing? kinda long plz help?
Ok so ive know this girl for 4 years, we started dating 3 months ago, the first month was the best ever, it was intense and romantic, the last 2 months she stared being withdrawn and distant, and recently she started talking to me less and less, until i emailed her a long message on the problem, a week later she stopped talking to me completely for 3 days, until she emailed me saying that she thought about it and said she thinks she needs a break and that she was going to get back at me in a few days.
the thing is that sometimes she is cold and mean, and i really love her and i put up with it because shes gone through some hard times and some things are understandable for her behavior,
is this really just a break? I treat her with respect and like a real lady, im really thoughtful and do little things for her every chance i get, i also really romantic and honest. i support her in everything she likes, I tell her shes beautiful instead of sexy, i open doors and pull up chairs, give flowers on special occasions and even had something special planned for her birthday, I’m a musician and shes given me more inspiration for music.
but i feel that right now her friends are more important than me because shes started hanging out with them more, but the thing is that since the break i feel that shes acting like we never even met and like she doesnt love me anymore, i started to go out more with my friends as well and im even going to a club with her brother, i dont want to beg her to come back, but if she dosent want to be with me i just want to know, is this really just a break? is what im doing the right thing to do? i dont want her to think i want to let her go, but i dont want to be home all day depressed either, please help
P.S. were both 18 years old, im 18 but im really mature for my age, alot of girls follow me around, but its hard for me to fall for just any girl, this girl is really special to me and i would do absolutely anything to win her back, asking her to come does sound like a good idea but i know it will make it worse, so im really confused on what to do
well first of all, this girl is craaaazy for letting you go. you seem like a great guy and i know that you love her but NO ONE deserves to be treated like a door mat. maybe she started to feel that she could walk all over you and do whatever she wants and will know that you are still there waiting. i know that you feel depressed and that it’s hard but the best thing for you to do right now is to go and hangout with friends and just live life. don’t make excuses for her behavior. how old are you?