Okay, so my 15th birthday is (supposed to be) my most special day (quinceanera) and so far i’m not excited about it. why? because my moms being insanely indecisive and rejecting EVERYTHING.
Not to be a brat in all, but this is the one day thats supposed to be about me, and she’s changing everything to suit her!
Every birthday i’ve had has benefited/been arrange by her for her personal enjoyment (i’ll admit, it was fun) and we agreed that we can do WHATEVER it is i want for my birthday this year. And with that the dissappointment begins….
MY FIRST IDEA WAS:
To have a party. With caterers, a special cake and entertainment(not performers, just like deejays)..one of those big parties with lots of people. It seemed as though she found nothing wrong with this, as she gave me the names of caterers and bakers and even gave me ideas for florists and other expensive things i could have at my party. She even pointed out a $500 dress.
But no.
About a month later after all this, when i bring up my cake she goes, "Well why don’t we just go to Sam’s and have them make the cake? They can put designs on it. " and " Why don’t I just make the food like I did for your sister’s quince?"
- Mind you SHE gave me the idea to go to a baker where i would get a special cake with the fondant designs to match my party and truly make it me. Also, my sisters quince was 30 people. Mine was expected to be 250+.
And icing on the birthday cake, she tells me "Well why dont you have grandma make your dress?"
- My grandma can make a dress, no lie, but nothing sweet sixteen worthy.
So I trashed the party idea.
Next, when I told my mom i didn’t want a party, she said , "okay let’s go somewhere, we could do the whole California-Vegas-Seattle tour (we talked about it a few months before the idea of my party came up) so I happily said yes, as this would be the perfect equivalent to my party.
But nope.
A few days later, she says: "why not just go to Vegas?"
I agreed, as i LOVE vegas.
Later…
I go to her room to show her a hotel I found (a very cheap rate at the bellagio- a VERY nice hotel) and she says "I don’t think vegas would be the best. I don’t wanna walk around. It’s too hot out there. "
WTF?!
So, after a few months of being pissed off at not having a good birthday planned, she later tells me we’re gonna go up to NY for a family reunion on the 4th.
Mind you my birthday is 3 days before the 4th. (The 1st)
And of course, my parents want to leave 2 days before my birthday. (The 29th)
So, getting over the fact that I won’t be anywhere special, nor will I be able to see my friends on my day, i suggest going to the city for the day
SHE SAYS YES FINALLY!
We plan on going on one of those double-decker bus tours, just the 4 of us. So we can shop and tour and do whatever whenever, without the bother of excess people. All we needed was the resrevation, and we’d be done.
I go on facebook that night and what do i see on our family reunion event page?
My mom: "Hey guys, why don’t we all go on that double-decker bus tour? We’re gonna go on the 1st, it’d be great if you all could join! It’s really great and you can see so much of the city!"
27 likes and 30 comments.
She knows i’m on that page and i’m her friend so its definitely not some kind of surprise thing for me.
She could’ve had the decency to tell people it was my birthday… (They don’t know, it’s my dads side of the family, who we’re not in touch with as much)
I ask her why she told everyone and she said " I think it’d be more fun with everyone there." And she goes listing out family members, mainly ones with little children -______-
I tell her " I thought it’d just be the 4 of us, just together and stuff? Now we have to leave when everyone else wants to and we have to find activities for EVERYONE and not just the four of us! It’s definitely not what we planned!"
She says, "Oh well."
I’M PISSED!
I’m sooo sick of her raising my expectations and then letting me down continuously! She falls back on her promises and expects me not to care. I thought this would actually be a birthday about me, where I can be happy. Now I’ll be stuck on a bus with my loud family and a bunch of screaming midgets.
I texted my sister about this and she says "Sorry :/ "
Am I being crazy or something?! Am I not wrong to be mad? I’ve compromised plenty of times with my mother and now she wants to go ahead and change my final plans?
So now we’re going on some night tour and we’re not going anywhere that day until that night.
Please don’t think i’m pissed for settling with new york, i’m not a spoiled brat. Our family just likes to travel, so i'
Sorry if i said Sweet Sixteen worthy, i meant quince.
I’m half hispanic and i chose a quince over a sweet sixteen…i often get the terms confused….
SORRY JEEZ!
to be perfectlly honest i understand how you feel it happends to me all the time
no you are not wrong to be mad
try telling everybody going its your bday and ask if they can add something to the reunion for your bday
also have your friends throw a small party for you so they can help
