For the past month I’ve been on a roller coaster ride with my ex girlfriend. I met her in November of 2008 and she was the best thing that ever happened to me. We fell in love with each other. I was more than your average boyfriend. I cooked, helped her financially if she needed, bought her dinner, opened doors, bought her flowers on occasion, and did all of the little things that mattered. We had our bumps in the road, but we got over it before we knew it we were giving each other a hug and a kiss. She ended meeting a new guy and she cheated on me and left me for him. I was devastated for months.
A few months ago I decided to take her out of my life completely and deleted her as a friend on facebook. About a month ago I received a message from her wondering why I deleted her. I didn’t bother to respond. She sent me another message and told me she still wanted to be friends and that she was sorry for what she did to me. Turns out the low life she left me for cheated and left her. She told me that she still cared about me and wanted to hang out or have lunch. So I gave into her.
Last week I received hockey tickets and I figured she would like to go. I sent her a text and asked her what her plans were for the night it was scheduled. No Response. The day of the game I called and sent her text messages asking if she wanted to go. She gave in and said she wanted to. We went to the game and had a good time. We went to a local bar for some drinks and had a really good time and laughed with each other.
We went back to her house that night, and that’s when I started to become emotional. Of course, because I was drunk. She told me why she left me for him. She left me because he lied about who he was. She told me we just weren’t right for each other. He left her behind with an apartment she can’t afford. She can’t even afford groceries. I felt really bad. I told her that I still loved her and kissed her. She started to cry and we both told each other we would be a part of each others lives even if we couldn’t be together. I left that night drenched in tears. The next day she sent me a text and made sure I made it home okay and I told her I was fine. I offered her lunch and she said she had plans. I told her I would talk to her later. I realized that I was falling in love all over again. I decided to stop by my local card store and bought her a valentines day card. I wrote a heart felt note on the card along with a $300 check to help her financially. She received it the day before Valentines Day and thanked me. She said it meant a lot and made sure that I was willing to do that. I told her not to worry about it and asked her what she was doing that night. She told me she had to go to work. The next day on Valentines Day I sent her a text and wished her a happy Valentines Day and told her that I hoped she was feeling better. She never responded. I figured she was sleeping because she worked late night. Someone from work that day gave me a big cheesecake that I didn’t really want. I thought about her and that she would like it. I sent her a text and asked if she was awake and didn’t get a response. I just went home that night without stopping by her place. She sent me at 1am and told me she was at work. Didn’t bother to say, "Happy Valentines Day" or "Thank You". The next day in the afternoon I sent her a text and told her I was going to drop by and give her a cheesecake the night before. I never got a response out of it. I didn’t bother to contact her yesterday. I was beginning to think she was taking advantage of me, and I was thinking about cancelling the check I gave her. Today I had a change in heart and sent her a text and asked what she was up to. She told me she was up at her bank cashing my check and trying to get her account straightened out. I told her that I hoped that my check would help and offered to go to lunch when she was finished. I still haven’t gotten a response.
Why is she doing this to me? Is she playing mind games, or taking the hard to get game to the next level? It’s been 10 months since our breakup and in those 10 months she asked for friendship many times, and I denied. I finally accept.. and now this?? Ladies.. I need your help
Because you are stupid and easy to take advantage of. I am pretty hot. You want to write me a check too?
sorry man, she’s using you to solve her financial problems
while you’re her little begger or loser (don’t mean to offend)
and well its the truth, next time just plain out call her not text her
(she has to have a free day from work sometime) and ask her what is
going on, truthfully you dont deserve somebody like that and even I can
see that and I don’t know you soooo just when you look back at what happened
look twice
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ok well i was in a similar situation, i dated a girl, she cheated on me, used me, left me and begged for forgiveness after and even claimed i raped her when i didn’t. so all i can say is: GET OUT OF THE SITUATION. do what ever you have to do to get her out of your life for good because it will not help you any to keep her in your life.
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Because you are stupid and easy to take advantage of. I am pretty hot. You want to write me a check too?
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okay his is some bullshit. I feel really bad for you it seems like she doesn’t give a damn on what you’re doing for her, done text her again! Wait to how long it takes her to contact you!! You’re putting way to much effort into something she doesn’t seem to care abot. She should be the one begging you to give her another change after she’s the one who cheated on YOU! seriously take my advice and wait for her to text, call, or email you!
Please answer mine
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I think she thought u r a connection by which she can get financial help. U took a wrong step – when u first met her and she became ur girlfrnd, it was wrong to gift her many things or bought dinner and giving her cash. All these happens after atleast a 2 year relationship after u know her well. At first u have to know her and make sure that she is not using u, she really had love with u or not.
U r a soft hearted person, but be strong and try 2 say no to this girl every time. U like her a lot, and she is just using ur weakness.
Anyway stay away from her, as much as u can, and try to show how good u r to other good girls. Don’t waste ur self on this girl. She is not for u.
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